{"id":2441,"date":"2018-11-20T21:53:28","date_gmt":"2018-11-20T21:53:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.vickygooden.com\/?p=2441"},"modified":"2018-11-27T20:05:21","modified_gmt":"2018-11-27T20:05:21","slug":"subfertility-motherhood-timeline","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vickygooden.com\/index.php\/2018\/11\/20\/subfertility-motherhood-timeline\/","title":{"rendered":"My subfertility to motherhood timeline"},"content":{"rendered":"

Our baby was about 4 years in the making, from the start of trying naturally to her doing newborn little lamb cries in our arms. And for some, that\u2019s absolutely nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was never told I was, we were \u2018infertile\u2019 as such but post a surprising diagnosis of endometriosis, never being pregnant naturally and once \u2018cleaned up\u2019 inside after endo surgery still not getting pregnant without IVF intervention, at times it looked pretty bleak.<\/span><\/p>\n

So many moments along the way have left me thinking \u2018no way, this isn\u2019t happening to us?\u2019 as buzzing worries in my head would ricochet from one side of my brain to the other, slamming into one another before shattering and multiplying in to even more.<\/span><\/p>\n

What if I can never have kids?<\/span><\/p>\n

This was the ultimate concern. The unthinkable.<\/span><\/p>\n

I had never ever contemplated that this would be an issue for us. I was convinced I was super fertile through my sheer longing to be a mum \u2018one day\u2019 alone. The plan (my plan) was to have two and adopt one.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u2018When we have kids \/ when I\u2019m a mum \/ when you\u2019re a dad\u2019 were common conversation starters. Long before trying to conceive I had ideas of ways of raising a little one, how we\u2019d spend time together, the important things to teach and help them discover.<\/span><\/p>\n

I am currently speaking to a number of ladies who are kindly going to share their stories of having babies against the odds that I hope to share in the coming weeks. The idea is to share the stories to raise hope and belief.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you’re trying to conceive, you google a lot. And I found that even though I was determined in trying to ban the bad stories, there weren’t enough hopeful ones unearthed. Ones where you\u2019re like, wow, if it can happen for that lady\/couple then why not me?<\/span><\/p>\n

So, I wanted to publish a rambling timeline that I kept in my phone along our path to parenthood. I literally found this in my notes last week and thought it might be interesting to share\u2026perhaps. It certainly is a mix of highs and lows and of not giving up. And the ultimate happy ending. I hope to follow this up with the stories of others in the coming weeks.<\/span><\/p>\n

Vx<\/span><\/p>\n

2014<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Started trying naturally at the end of 2014, not really tracking ovulation and all that jazz. But not not trying.<\/span><\/p>\n

2015<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Nothing. Still trying. Upping the ovulation tracking game. Got the fancy (expensive) battery operated ovulation device. I ovulate, that\u2019s what it tells me. So it won\u2019t be long now surely.<\/span><\/p>\n

2016<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

All sorts of crazy takes over. Legs up the bed headboard after sex. If John has a work trip with an early flight but I’m likely to be ovulating, I set my alarm even earlier to get the deed DONE.<\/span><\/p>\n