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Madness isn\u2019t it. Utter madness. And completely exhausting.<\/p>\n<p>Because even on our worst days, the days where we ourselves don\u2019t wash or wear clean clothes or eat or \u2018have it together\u2019 or we cry and think we might not make it to bedtime. The days where nothing goes right and there\u2019s no one to call or help and we\u2019re \u2018failing\u2019. The days where the place is a TIP. The days that roll into the nights where baby is unsettled and our own bodies hurt and plead with us for rest and sleep yet we just can\u2019t stop. When we just don\u2019t know what\u2019s wrong with them so we shuffle around drawers and cupboards trying to find the answer and we call 111 and go through all the questions that leave us more panicked than before. Questions that baffle us and we don\u2019t know how to answer and then feel judged by the person on the other end of the phone because we\u2019re their mother, we should know. The days where the teething granules shoot straight down their throat. The days where you accidentally bite their finger when you\u2019re playing the game that makes them laugh so hard where you <i>pretend<\/i> to bite their fingers. Even on those days, to them we are still THE BEST.<\/p>\n<p>We are comfort and food and relief and joy and warmth and strong and reliable and warm milk and fascinating and the best toy ever and stories and cuddles and broccoli and porridge and something to pull and gnaw and bounces and rhymes and songs and adventures and tickles and kisses and clean clothes and dry bottoms and their best friend. 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